If It Ain’t Giving Me Life, Then It’s Giving Me Strife.
This healing journey thing is no joke. The life that I lived before I began healing was a chaotic one. I was a perfectionist and a people pleaser. My lack of strong boundaries caused many wounds that still need healing.
When you’re a people pleaser, you make choices that you know will please someone else, no matter the damage it will cause to your own life. I just wanted the people around me to like me and feel at ease. I lacked firm boundaries and saying no was like speaking a foreign language. I said yes constantly, even when inner me definitely wanted to say no. I cannot tell you how many decisions I have made in life without considering myself. That way of living was bound to end me. So I worked to put an end to it and chose myself. Now, I give myself space before I say yes to anything.
I now treat my life as if it were a Kingdom. A beautiful peaceful, where faith, honesty, forgiveness, and compassion take place daily. I have full reign over every happening, and event that takes place. I think of my boundaries like strong, fortified, protective walls surrounding my kingdom. Anyone or anything that enters my kingdom has to be granted entry by the Queen herself (that would be me). My boundaries keep my kingdom safe from the attack of toxicity, and unwelcome negative energy. I took the step to build firm boundaries. My motto behind that step is “If it ain’t giving me life, then it’s giving me strife”. If a situation comes to the gates of my kingdom the boundary guard asks ,“ Will this cause strife or give life? If the answer is the former, that situation is not welcome in my kingdom. PERIOD!!! I say this to myself before I commit my energy to anything or anyone.
Peace and harmony in my kingdom must be protected at all cost. You have to take yourself into consideration when making any choice in life. No matter how you slice it, at the end of the day, every decision that you make directly impacts you and your kingdom. I do not play when it comes to my peace. Fuck that. I worked entirely too hard to get here and it takes daily practice to maintain it.
Peace protection is a form of self love and I am showing myself love on the daily.
The shit feels amazing.
